1. Identity Disorder and Pathological Lying on Facebook Crime Sites
Pathological lying can accurately be called an identity disorder. The pathological liar creates a new, more exciting identity and then begins to create lies to place herself into this new identity. An example is a pathological liar who sings in local ensembles but envisions herself to be a rock star. Some pathological liars have severe self esteem and identity disorders and need multiple fake identities. Some may envision themselves as rock stars and place themselves into the middle of a local crime. Desiring to be more exciting and valuable to society than they truly are, they begin to lie that that they have inside knowledge of true crimes. They create a new identity of rock-star-super-hero crime fighter and this fuels the pathological lying.
The pathological liar doesn't place value in actual experience. Her value is found only in identification. She doesn't need to be an employee in the sheriff’s office to know exactly what it's like to solve crimes. After all, she has watched Nancy Grace for years. She might have enough intuition to understand the thought process, emotions, affects, and consequences of the experiences she lies about. This assists her in believing that she has the “right” to lie because the subject matter “affected” her exactly as if the lies were true.
When identified as a pathological liar, she will hope to spare her self esteem from additional blows. She will attempt to discredit those who have discovered her lies. She will make desperate attempts to maintain her new fake identity which is so closely tied with her self esteem. At this point ridiculous efforts will be made by the pathological liar to save her false identity. An example is ridiculously posting false photo ID card which shows a 3’10” height and 64 lbs weight and stating that it is hers. In reality, this is a state identification card needed for her child to prove residency and required to obtain Welfare benefits.
Enabling a pathological liar reinforces their pathological behavior. Their annoying behavior can be criminal if the pathological liar is interfering in criminal investigations by creating false evidence. Pathological liars are not exempt from prosecution.
Let a pathological liar know that her behavior is unacceptable. Tell the pathological liar that you have identified her lies. Make her aware that you will end contact with her if she will not admit to her lies and state that she will stop lying to you in the future. Follow through with your statement if she will not admit to her lies. Encourage others who interact with the pathological liar to do the same. If she has no one to listen to her lies, she find healthier ways to increase her self esteem.
2. Narcissism and Pathological Lying on Facebook Crime Sites
Self-esteem and narcissism have been found to be interrelated for decades. Narcissist have a need for a need for admiration to boost their self esteem and pathological lying on Facebook and other internet forums has become an easy method for them to gather admirers. Because narcissists have less capacity to sustain intimate or long-term relationships, the internet provides the perfect vehicle to gather admiration, but avoid close relationships. Virtual friends who admire the narcissist’s false characteristics are a cheap energy source for the narcissist. They are never valued as friends, but rather these individuals are only seen by the narcissistic as a self esteem supply source.
On Facebook and other forums, narcissists create fascinating identities such as rock star or judge in order to obtain admirers. Disturbingly, some of these lies are not only annoying, but they may be criminal offenses. Lying about being a judge is a felony. Allowing a pathological lying narcissist to participate in discussions or joining the liar’s Facebook page is enabling their pathological and sometimes criminal behavior. Confront their lies. Tell the pathological lying narcissist that you refuse to communicate with them until they admit their lies and state that they will not lie to you in the future. Follow through with your statement if they will not admit their lies.
--Anonymous contributor
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